Nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this adds up to more than 10 million women and men. Nearly 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have experienced severe physical violence by an intimate partner during their lifetime. 3 women are murdered every day by a current or former male partner in the U.S.
We all have a role in ending domestic violence. To face this devastating social issue, Good Neighbors provides shelters and services for those who suffer from domestic violence. Good Neighbors Korea reached out to 117,107 children in vulnerable situation and on December 14, 2017, Good Neighbors USA opened its shelter that can host and care more than 70 women and children who are victims or at risk of domestic violence.
You can also play an important role in helping a friend, neighbor, co-worker, or family member that is being abused by an intimate partner or somebody they are dating. If you’re asking yourself what you could do to help while reading this, we have listed 3 actions you can take to help those who are suffering.
1. Recognize the signs of domestic violence is your first step to intervention
Be wary of the following warning signs. It could be an indicator that someone is being abused.
• Physical Signs of Abuse, including black eyes, busted lips, red or purple marks on the neck sprained wrists, bruises on the arms.
• Exhibit fear
• Act differently or strangely in social situations, at work, or at school
• Wear unseasonable clothing, like long sleeves in the summer
• Give explanations that don’t add up
2. Be a resource and connect them to the resources
Someone experiencing violence may not be able to research shelters, make escape plans or set up necessities like bank accounts and cell phones while living with his or her abuser. Offer to do the legwork to help ease stress and keep things confidential. Guide your friend to resources and encourage them to get help. There are many organizations that provide free, confidential help.
3. Listen without judgment
Tell your friend/family member that you care and are willing to listen. Do not force them to talk about anything they don’t want to talk about, but allow them to confide in you at their own pace. If the person does decide to talk, listen to the story without being judgmental, offering advice, or suggesting solutions. Chances are if you actively listen, the person will tell you exactly what they need. Just give the person the full opportunity to talk.
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